Building A Happy Relationship With You

Building A Happy Relationship With You

  • By - The Modern Day Wife
  • 09 January, 2021

“Get to know yourself first.” As cliche as that may sound, there is some degree of truth behind it. How are you going to find the right people to surround yourself with if you aren’t sure what you enjoy doing? How are you going to find the right job that fits your personality if you aren’t even sure what it is that makes you truly happy? Being able to spend time with yourself and go through trial and error is how you build a true connection with yourself.  

I believe most people often mistake taking time for yourself as being selfish. However, it is important to understand that if you are enjoying a hobby or working at a job that fills you with genuine happiness, then it is completely okay if not everyone understands it. Much like we grow out of clothes as we grow up, we sometimes can grow out of people. Most likely, this will happen naturally. You make friends at school or at your job and then you graduate or you find a better-suited job and no longer see the same faces. However, sometimes it’s a realization that your goals and values may not line up with someone who they once did. Not everyone who comes into our lives is meant to stay in the storyline forever. 

Growing out of people does not mean you are intentionally doing so, however, it is important to understand that much like time progresses and evolves, so too do we human beings. It would be wishful thinking that every friend and family member would completely agree or even understand where you are coming from. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs, however, it does not mean you must sacrifice your own just to keep that one person in your life. Now it is important to understand that finding your inner happiness does not mean you can put others down to benefit yourself. Building that relationship with you and finding that happiness is mainly about finding that voice within you to be able to speak up for yourself and stand up for what you believe in. 

Changing career paths can be filled with uncertainty and lots of questioning. It is vital to understand that just because you may have gone to school and graduated with a certain degree, this does not mean you have to follow a specific career path. It is completely okay to graduate from college and not have any idea what you want to do. Not having all of the answers right away is a part of life. This is when trial and error becomes your best friend. Apply for that job that you’re not completely sure about. If you don’t like it, there are many other options available.

When it is time to make these decisions, comparison can be your worst enemy. It is so easy for us to look at what our siblings, our best friends, our fellow classmates are doing and feel as though we are not as successful as they are. Every individual is going through a different life experience. We are all sitting on different timelines in life and it is completely okay to do things “out of order” if that’s what feels right for you. 

Stepping outside of your comfort zone is daunting, but extremely rewarding when we find something that makes us feel truly happy. Growing up in Western culture, society boasts the idea of individualism and the importance of being happy with yourself. We are called individuals for a reason. We are going to have different interests, enjoy doing different hobbies, and have a passion for different types of jobs. This is key to remember when making a decision whether big or small.

At the end of the day, you have to live with yourself and as much as we can take advice and listen to others’ experiences, you are still going to be a unique
individual with likes and dislikes. Now let’s go discover what they are!